Divorce Bible Reasons
Is Getting A Divorce The Answer?
The rate of divorce nowadays is alarming, particularly amongst believers?
You hear many reasons today, top of the list is, irreconcilable differences.
What is that and why is it used?
Is it a case of, 'I just don't love you anymore!"
"We want different things!"
"I want to be free!"
"You just get on my last nerve!"
We all know no one really ever knows what goes on in a marriage and between husband and wife, more than the two involved. We also know no one is perfect and no one can ever make you happy if you were miserable to begin with i.e before you got married.
Am I making light of your plight or the plight of other Divorced couples? No, I'm not!
However, as one who has been married herself for almost 17 years this year, I know what couples have to contend with and I know it takes effort and committment on your part, you don't just stop trying. A great danger in marriages which leads people to think getting a divorce is the answer is the erroneous belief that if only, s(he) would change, things would be just perfect!
No it wouldn't, because the biggest enemy to you getting a divorce is you - what thoughts, imaginations and actions do you allow to persuade yourself that getting a divorce is the right path to take?
When the late wife of the renowned evangelist, Billy Graham was asked had she ever considered divorce (possibly because she raised their four children mainly without him as he toured the globe preaching the gospel), it was recorded that she replied:
"Divorce never, murder several times!"
Every wife and possibly husband knows that feeling and if you have ever read any of my articles on marriage or followed Love Nurture I never advocate it - people always seem to look for justification and affirmation in their decision to get a divorce.
However, I am a firm believer in getting a legal separation except where you, your children or another has been victim of your spouse's criminal or illegal activities i.e. you married a rapist, a pedeophile or murderer. Or you are suffering physical or emotional abuse etc.
You will have conflict in your marriage, every marriage couple does!
There will be times your can't stand your spouse, maybe because you're hormonal or s(he) is just behaving in an unloving manner towards you - congratulations and welcome to humanity! But, is this reason to get a divorce, definately not!
How can you prevent getting a divorce?
Go for marriage counselling - there are registered marriage counsellors you can look up and I would advocate one who has a biblical basis.
Have accountability - when things need fixing speak up to the right person(s) you have to have someone you and he are accountable to who you mutually respect, join organisations like Love Nurture, where the aim is to build stronger marriages. Visit Love Nurture for details of functions and how you can learn from other people's experiences.
Communicate - no one can help you or change when they don't know what's on your mind, so speak up and be clear and to the point.
I was told early on in life, possibly before I got married, that, 'you teach your spouse how to treat you.' What have you been accommodating or turning a blind eye to, which now threatens to destroy your marriage? This is the thing you must face up to today and change your reaction to it, be it acceptance of an injustice, indifference or fear! The power to change your marriage is in your hands.
Let me conclude with this quote from the bible, "Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.."
About the Author
Eruvwu Obuaya is the founder and editor of Love Nurture, an organisation which seeks to build stronger families through it's functions, magazines and the investment arm - Love Nurture Investment. Eruvwu is author of Anchored Assurance, a novel about faith, hope and endurance in difficult times. Eruvwu's writes extensively on family and financial and business investments. For more on Love Nurture Investments visit the webpage at http://www.lovenurture.com
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